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Today is:
Airplane Crop Duster Day
American Canoe Association Birthday 1880
American Family Day
National Watermelon Day
Air Traffic Controllers Day
National Baseball Association Formed 1949
Prairie Dawn's Birthday (Sesame Street)
National Park Day
International Forgiveness Day
Sisters Day
National Waffle Day
I like the thought of International Forgiveness Day. Although I think forgiveness is something that should be given often. Most people have the wrong take forgiveness, IMO. Forgiveness, to me, is something you give to yourself. When you forgive someone what you are saying is that you give up the right to hurt that person back for what ever they did to you. When you ask forgiveness from someone, it's a little different. Asking forgiveness is admission that you did something wrong and that you wish to let the person know that you accept that you did something wrong. Neither is dependent upon the other person either asking for or accepting the forgiveness. Does that make sense? It works best if both parties are willing to follow those definitions, but it's not necessary.
Forgiveness isn't saying "That's Okay!" because saying that basically means the person didn't have to apologize and that's wrong. Forgiveness isn't granting absolution for the act because punishments and consequences need to happen even if there is an apology. Asking for and receiving forgiveness does not wipe clean the slate. Granting forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to trust the person again or that things will be just the way they were.
At least, that's my take on forgiveness.
Waffle Day, huh? I would like to get this for my daughter, but I'm not going to pay $60 for it. I'm looking on e-bay and see if I can get one for half that. I have until Christmas.
I don't have a sister. So I'm claiming![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
finabair and kitap as my sisters. When I am with either them, people often think we are sisters. So that's cool. All the closeness and none of the emotional baggage. Heh.
Airplane Crop Duster Day
American Canoe Association Birthday 1880
American Family Day
National Watermelon Day
Air Traffic Controllers Day
National Baseball Association Formed 1949
Prairie Dawn's Birthday (Sesame Street)
National Park Day
International Forgiveness Day
Sisters Day
National Waffle Day
I like the thought of International Forgiveness Day. Although I think forgiveness is something that should be given often. Most people have the wrong take forgiveness, IMO. Forgiveness, to me, is something you give to yourself. When you forgive someone what you are saying is that you give up the right to hurt that person back for what ever they did to you. When you ask forgiveness from someone, it's a little different. Asking forgiveness is admission that you did something wrong and that you wish to let the person know that you accept that you did something wrong. Neither is dependent upon the other person either asking for or accepting the forgiveness. Does that make sense? It works best if both parties are willing to follow those definitions, but it's not necessary.
Forgiveness isn't saying "That's Okay!" because saying that basically means the person didn't have to apologize and that's wrong. Forgiveness isn't granting absolution for the act because punishments and consequences need to happen even if there is an apology. Asking for and receiving forgiveness does not wipe clean the slate. Granting forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to trust the person again or that things will be just the way they were.
At least, that's my take on forgiveness.
Waffle Day, huh? I would like to get this for my daughter, but I'm not going to pay $60 for it. I'm looking on e-bay and see if I can get one for half that. I have until Christmas.
I don't have a sister. So I'm claiming
finabair and kitap as my sisters. When I am with either them, people often think we are sisters. So that's cool. All the closeness and none of the emotional baggage. Heh.
