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During our recent vacation, Myria asked me "We've done things that I wanted to do and things Dad wanted to do, what do you want to do?" I replied that I was doing what I wanted to do and that I enjoyed doing all the things that she and Wil wanted to do. She didn't like that answer and I'm not really sure she believed me. But she should have.
I never once felt that I was sacrificing anything on the vacation. Heck, I was the one who chose where we were going, from that point of view, the whole vacation was all about me. I wanted to see the Cumberland Gap and we did. I wanted to visit a Civil War Battlefield (something I've never done) and we toured Fort Donelson National Battlefield. I wanted to drive past little mountain church houses on winding Appellation roads and we did that. I wanted to see some Natural Arches and although we didn't get to do that, we did take a wonderful hike back in the Daniel Boone National Forest to see Yahoo Falls. More than a fair trade in my book, especially since the Yahoo Falls trip came with an interesting tale.
More than that, I do truly enjoy the things that Myr and Wil like to do. I enjoy visiting science museums and hiking around doing geocaching. I didn't feel well on Thursday, but I still enjoyed wondering around Nashville. I really liked touring the Buffalo Trace distillery and the Rebecca Ruth Candy shops. They may not have been my "choice" but they were very cool.
Perhaps the problem is what I want to do isn't a "thing". What I really wanted from my vacation was to spend time with Wil and Myr and I got to do that. I wanted to have a good time. I did. I wanted to be happy. I was.
People used to ask me "What do you want Myr to be when she grows up?" I always answered the same "I want her to be happy". The trappings of life are immaterial – it doesn't matter if I tour a distillery, play a game of cards in a laundromat or sit around a campfire reading a book and talking. I was sharing life with those I love.
What more could anyone ask for?
I never once felt that I was sacrificing anything on the vacation. Heck, I was the one who chose where we were going, from that point of view, the whole vacation was all about me. I wanted to see the Cumberland Gap and we did. I wanted to visit a Civil War Battlefield (something I've never done) and we toured Fort Donelson National Battlefield. I wanted to drive past little mountain church houses on winding Appellation roads and we did that. I wanted to see some Natural Arches and although we didn't get to do that, we did take a wonderful hike back in the Daniel Boone National Forest to see Yahoo Falls. More than a fair trade in my book, especially since the Yahoo Falls trip came with an interesting tale.
More than that, I do truly enjoy the things that Myr and Wil like to do. I enjoy visiting science museums and hiking around doing geocaching. I didn't feel well on Thursday, but I still enjoyed wondering around Nashville. I really liked touring the Buffalo Trace distillery and the Rebecca Ruth Candy shops. They may not have been my "choice" but they were very cool.
Perhaps the problem is what I want to do isn't a "thing". What I really wanted from my vacation was to spend time with Wil and Myr and I got to do that. I wanted to have a good time. I did. I wanted to be happy. I was.
People used to ask me "What do you want Myr to be when she grows up?" I always answered the same "I want her to be happy". The trappings of life are immaterial – it doesn't matter if I tour a distillery, play a game of cards in a laundromat or sit around a campfire reading a book and talking. I was sharing life with those I love.
What more could anyone ask for?
