LJ Etiquette Question:

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I'm not usually one to stand on formalities, but there are a couple of LJ etiquette questions that bother me.

Today's question: What is the etiquette for friending someone in a "Friending Meme"?

With the restart of 24, moosewizard put up a little 24 Friending Meme. goddess_loki has put them up for CSI:NY in the past. I love reading through all the answers, if just to see how different I am from the other fans. *grin*

However, how do they work, exactly? Does one just add an interesting person as a friend? Do you reply to the post and ask if it's okay to friend them or to ask them to friend you back? I've seen people do that -- ask permission or leave a note saying that you friended them. But then I see just as many replies that have no comments on them. Does that mean no one is interested?

Personally, I assume that people who reply to a friending meme are giving their tatic approval for anyone to add them. But I'm not sure that's what everyone thinks because I've see people who's journal is all "Friends only" and "People who don't think the same as I need not apply" when you go to their LJ.

I'm not up on the social niceties of LJ (obviously), so I'm relying on those of you out there who have a wide circle of friends: How does this work?

Comments

[afteriwake.livejournal.com]

I always ask permission, just to make sure they really want to be friends with me.

LJ Etiquette Question:

[nyx-26.livejournal.com]

I am glad that you asked that question. I am new to blogging as of yesterday. I was worried about getting scolded for commenting on someone's post. Are blogging instructions provided? lol Then I thought about it. It was not that serious. I don't have a wide range of friends yet but if I see someone of interest I will add them. If they don't like. I figured they would let me know. Yesterday, I received a message stating that someone added me. I didn't know if I was supposed to respond or not. My reply was "Great" with a smiley face. Then I felt silly after I sent it.

[imbri6.livejournal.com]

One of my in-real-life friends went on a long rant about how confusing it can be because LJ refers to it as "friending" people. He argued (and I pretty much agree) that you "friend" someone who you want to read easily from your friend's page. They "friend" you back if they want you to be able to read their locked posts and/or they want to read your journal easily from their friend's page.

There are several folks who have me friended that I don't know and don't really care about. If they wanna read my unlocked stuff (which is most of it) they're welcome. I don't consider myself under any obligation to read their journals, and thus don't bother friending them back.

Why folks would comment on a "friending meme" who didn't want to be friended is beyond me...

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

I don't have a wide circle, but on average a person has asked me if it's ok. I'm not sure why as I explain my position in my bio, but it doesn't bother me. I'm always flattered, at least at first lol.